Typically, abandonment fears stem from childhood loss. For example, the loss of a parent through separation, divorce or death. Abandonment can additionally result from inadequate emotional or physical care. Such early childhood experiences can indeed lead to a fear of being abandoned by the significant people in our adult life.
When our fear of abandonment is frequent, and is severe and difficult for us to ease, it can cause us significant impairment. In particularly with regard to our development of healthy relationships. When this is the case, it would be wise to seek the support of a therapist.
For adults who did not experience abandonment in their childhood, they may still be challenged by feelings associated with abandonment if they lost an intimate partner through death, divorce or separation. In both situations the impact can be negative and affect all of the relationships we develop, including intimate, professional and social.
Psychological Concerns Related to Abandonment
When a person experiences abandonment, they are likely to encounter long-term psychological challenges. The person's concerns are based primarily on the fear that abandonment will recur. When a child hasn't receive adequate emotional support from a parent, the child may not develop a healthy self-esteem.
In therapy the client will learn to separate their fears from their past from the reality of their present. The objective is for the client to reach transformation and thereby develop positive reactions and realistic expectations in their life. When the client recognises that their fears are actually rooted in their past, they can then begin to develop an ability to minimise the way their fear controls their emotional responses to present events and relationships and achieve healing from their past experiences.