Anger ©

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. However, when it gets out of control and becomes destructive, the anger can lead to problems in our personal relationships at our workplace and in the overall quality of your life. Anger can make you feel like you are at the mercy of a powerful and unpredictable emotion. The emotional state of anger varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by biological and physiological changes; your heart rate and blood pressure go up, and so will your energy hormones, noradrenaline and adrenaline. Our anger can be caused by both internal and external events. One may be angry at a specific person, or an event such as a traffic jam, a cancelled event or flight, or perhaps your anger could is caused by you worrying about your personal problems. Our memories of enraging or traumatic events can also trigger angry feelings.

Chronic or uncontrolled anger can bring on problems at our place of work and home and may have disastrous results. Inappropriate anger can cause others to avoid us thereby making it difficult to socialise and/or find employment. If one notices problems such as angry outbursts or long-term rage, it is time to seek counselling or therapy as this is the best method of learning the necessary skills to control these hostile emotions. Chronic and uncontrolled anger may result in a costly emotional and physical aftermath. In certain situations, most people will use their anger in appropriate ways, and in inappropriate ways in different situations. Our unexpressed anger can certainly create additional problems. For example, unexpressed anger can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behaviour, which is getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them directly.


Anger management 

Individuals who are constantly putting others down, criticising everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. As a result, they usually don’t have many successful relationships. Anger Management is a form of counselling that helps us to cope with our angry feelings that are affecting our work, health, social behaviour or personal relationships. The objective of Anger Management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. Learning to control your reactions/responses will positively enhance your life.

 

Gene Barry Psychotherapist

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